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Your Wildest Dreams

Once there was a little girl who:

  • wanted nothing more than to be a happy and famous film star
  • wanted to make her daddy so proud of her that she never had to worry about disappointing him (when she was imperfect)
  • wished that she could figure out a way to make her mother happy because she could see how sad she really was underneath her flamboyant demeanor (hmm sounds a bit familiar)
  • put her all into everything because she was brought up to believe she could be anything she dreamed of being, and was fully capable of being the best at everything she decided to be the best at
  • started to realize she was different than her friends because people didn’t seem to really understand her inner world; they only saw the outer perfection
  • started to see her success as a curse because the more she achieved, the more negative attention, judgment, bullying, threats, abuse, and isolation she experienced
  • wished on every shooting star that she would grow up to be happy, healthy, and still achieve all her wildest dreams without having to feel any more pain or loss or hurt ever again

Life may not be a fairy tale, but it is so full of possibility and splendor when we learn how to take agency in our lives and live with intention. Stop hiding, stop pretending, stop trying.

—Let yourself fail

—Let yourself cry

—Let yourself let go

Have you ever stopped and taken a look back at that little girl or boy you used to be and asked them, “Is there anything you still need?”

Because you can make it happen! All you have to do is be honest with yourself and do what makes you happy. Not what other people expect. Happiness isn’t perfection or success, it’s connection to your personal truth.

This life is about your journey, and when you’re on the right and healthy path for YOU, good things happen. Take heed of the signs, and know that all the hurdles and discomforts and agony along the way were put there to bring you to this current juncture.

Because it’s a choice. Choose to be happy. Choose to give yourself what YOU need, every chance you get.

The right people will linger. Some will return pleasantly realigned, some depart. Don’t focus on the losses.

Keep going, you’re doing great! Just remember what your wildest dreams were made of. . .

The Greater Good

I’m starting to get a reputation — like my father — for speaking up against the status quo and about the most controversial issues; and I’m proud of that! I was blessed to be birthed into a warrior’s household. Peaceful at times (mostly in the therapy room or during my own down time), but bold & blatant about my beliefs when I see or hear of behaviors I disbelieve.

I sent this comment into a radio talk show today and thought maybe I should share it:

If we allow apathy on financial crimes and immigration crimes at this level… it’s a slippery slope. Although we have to balance regulation with freedom to pursue our wealth and happiness — we can’t have an attitude of “well if I can get away with it because the system is inefficient, then why not?”

There are two issues here:

1) the moral apathy of civil society (local & resident)

2) the inefficiency of the system (some will say corruption)

We must consider the consequences of our choices and balance the way they benefit us individually with the harm they could do to others collectively. We can still pursue our freedom, happiness, health, wealth, and success without taking away from others and to the detriment of our society. We are creating a reality that punishes the good and law abiding citizens and motivates the morally ambiguous into crime.

I can see both sides and I’ve been one of these people at one time or another trying to get things done quickly. There can be reasonable flexibility. But exceptions should be exceptions for a logical purpose. It begins and ends with the values of the system as a whole and the investment into the system’s efficiency.

When done well, it will not be too rigid or time consuming and it will be an enforcing one that encourages self regulation and accountability, while supporting sustained opportunity for ‘the good life’ for the average person.

P.S. If you didn’t know, I triple majored in Sociology, Psychology, and Philosophy; this is just the way I naturally think. It’s based on a philosophical theory called Utilitarianism.

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Sometimes less is more. Sometimes when we are surrounded by emotional and mental clutter, psychological and spiritual clutter — human clutter — we suffocate our own sense of self.

Strip away all of the unnecessary distractions and get down to the essential pieces of you. Clear space for your breath and your freedom to exist at your most basic level. Bask in your birthright!

You don’t have to know who you are, simply who you want to be. If you don’t know what that looks like, create more silence with less clutter and just BE (alone) with yourself. Focus on what you FEEL rather than what you think. Observe your experience of everything without interpretation. Just notice how you interact with existence.

What do you feel? Then, what do you want to feel? Feel that. Evoke what you desire from the inside out. Every moment matters. It’s never too late to create your preferred self.

©️2016 DR. BABE

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